Wilde and Fee Lovecourt Archive

DANA from North Royalton wrote in about having the in-laws in for Christmas. She says she wants to try something different this year and just have her immediate family celebrate Christmas. Her husband says his family ALWAYS comes for Christmas and will be offended if they don't get invited again this year.

WILDE AND FEE listeners voted to have the ENTIRE FAMILY spend Christmas together.

DEAR WILDE AND FEE LOVECOURT
MY HUSBAND, LIKE MANY HUSBANDS, IS A SLOPPY DRESSER....HE WEARS SHIRTS WITH HOLES..SHIRTS THAT ARE OVER TEN YEARS OLD AND SHOES THAT CLEARLY NEED UPDATING....

• Dear Wilde and Fee LOVECOURT,
  
  Yesterday, you talked about a mom who went with her daughter to get a belly piercing without the father knowing…
  As a father, I am the odd man out in my house. I have something that is bothering me and I would like for you to solve it.
  My wife Dawn and our daughter are huge tv fans and watch everything together. The problem is, my daughter is 14 and the shows are Desperate Housewives, Gray’s Anatomy and the OC…have you seen these shows? They are not appropriate for kids. The are very sexual and often talk about things my daughter shouldn’t be learning about. ..my wife says they are popular shows on regular tv and she is being a responsible parent by watching the show with her daughter. We couldn’t disagree more. What do you think?
  -Tim
  
  A lot of passion on the phone this morning during LOVECOURT. Listeners sided with Dawn by one vote. They say that it's ok if she watches shows like DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES, GRAY's and THE OC with her 14 year-old. The results, however, sparked more intense passion with several callers debating whether or not it is ok to watch that kind of TV with a teen.

• Heidi from Rocky River wrote in to ask about her husband greeting co workers by kissing them on the lips. Heidi feels it is not appropriate and that it's a red flag. Her husband says he is just being social and it means nothing. WILDE AND FEE listeners sided with Heidi,saying it's not right to kiss on the lips.

• Dear Wilde and Fee Lovecourt...
  My husband and I are in a very serious argument about a bully at our 14yr. old son's school. Our son is constantly being harrassed by another kid everyday at school. My husband says he needs to stand up for himself and hit the kid back, I think that's a terrible idea. We need to contact the bully's parents and talk things out.
  Joann... Medina
  WILDE AND FEE Listeners surprised us when they voted to have the kid to stand up for himself and fight back.

• Listener Eric checked in asking about his 20th high school reunion. He has been talking to his friends from school and an ex-girlfriend who will also be attending the reunion via email. Eric's wife can't make the trip. Eric is being pressured by a friend to tell his wife he has been talking to an ex through the internet. Eric says he is not going to do anything, so why rock the boat?
  
  WILDE AND FEE listeners overwhelmingly voted for him to be up front with his wife BEFORE he makes the trip.
  
• Dear Wilde and Fee Lovecourt,
  My wife Selma and I need to have something resolved on your lovecourt. We have 2 teenage boys... one is 14 and one who is now 17.
  Our 17 year old son got into a bit of trouble in his early teens experimenting with drugs and hanging out with the wrong crowd. Now, we have no reason to think that our younger son is involved with anything he shouldn't be, but I want to check just to make sure. I feel it is more than appropriate for a father to go through his kids things without the kid knowng.... I also want to put a program on his computer to watch his every move without him knowing. My wife says its not fair to a kid who has done nothing wrong. I think it's proactive parenting.
  
  Who is right... my wife Selma who says leave hime alone unless we know something for sure? or me, who wants to prevent something before it happens?
  
  Jerry, Middleburg Hts.
  
  WILDE AND FEE listeners agreed with Jerry that it is OK to proactively spy on kids.
  
• Dear Wilde and Fee Lovecourt...
  A Little over a year ago, I met and Fell is Love with a man who changed my life. He is romantic, a good friend, kind and has a big heart. Although everything is going well on the surface i am have a problem with his severe snoring. He does understand the full extent of it as he sleeps. I spend countless nights unable to sleep because of the noise. I have offered to sleep in the guest room... but he says that is not what couples should do. I don't want to spend the rest of my life sleeping in a seperate room. I am tired most days because of his snoring and I have tried everything. I have told him to get corrective surgery, but he refuses.
  Is this something worth breaking things off over? Am I over reacting? Do other people in your audience have a similar issue?
  I love him, but this is truly very difficult to overcome.
  Shane in Northfield Center
  
  WILDE AND FEE LISTENERS WEIGHED IN SAYING SHANE SHOULD BREAK THINGS OFF IF HE DOESN'T SEEK SOME KIND OF RESOLUTION TO HIS SNORING.

• Amelia and Jack are having a debate about babysitting... Amelia feels that it's not her job to set -up and coordinate the babysitter. Jack feels that it is not appropriate for a man to set up a babysitter, especially since the babysitter is a 14 year old girl. He says his wife should pick up and drop off the sitter and call yo work out the details, that way there are no misunderstandings and everyone is comfortable. Amelia says they should alternate the task and that it should not always get dumped on her... Wilde and Fee listeners ruled in favor of Jack, saying that the Mom should handle all aspects of babysitting.

• Lynette has been divorced for about 4 years and has dated several men, but the one that she's currently seeing is causing a problem. lynette likes him and says they get along great, but her 12 year-old daugher refuses to try and get along with him. She says that he is equally uncomfortable with her daughter. The question is whether or not she should continue to date him or break up and satisfy her daugther WILDE AND FEE listeners voted to have Lynette stay with her man and communicate better with her daughter.

• Andrea wrote in to tell the story of her friend who, after five years is pondering divorce. She has been in a good marriage and seems happy. But recently , her husband changed his mind about having kids. He says he no longer wants kids. She does and says she wants to find a husband who does. WILDE AND FEE threw out the case after several listeners were divided on what to do.
  
• SOCCER MOM MEG in Broadview Heights wrote in concerned about her soccer coach husband who is concerned about one of his potential coaching practices. He wants to pay a dollar to every kid who scores a goal. Says it sets the tone for later in life with scholorships and other incentives. Meg says it's an awful idea and it sends the kids the wrong message. Wilde and Fee listeners agreed and said don't do it....

• Elise from Warrensville Center wrote in to get help solve a dispute with her husband. They have not spoken to their neighbors in over five years because the neighbor's dog was pooping in their yard. Elise wants to end the dispute. Her husband says the neighbors need to reach out first. Wilde and Fee listeners all agreed that life is too short for such a silly dispute and sided with Elise.

• Listener ANNA wrote in about a debate she was having with her husband DON over wedding bands. He wears an ARMY ring in place of a wedding band. His buddy wears a CLASS RING rather than his wedding band. ANNA feels that he should wear his ring to honor her first. WILDE AND FEE listeners voted overwhelmingly for both men to put their rings on!!!
  
• Kathy wrote in Highland Heights about a debate she had with her husband Gordon about re-gifting. Their daughter was given a series of HARRY POTTER books worth a couple of hundred dollars. Their daughter is not a HARRY POTTER fan and wants to give them to a friend who very much is. Gordon said "Why not?" Kathy feels it's rude to give away a gift. Q104 listeners voted to narrowly to go ahead and re-gift.

• Ryan wrote in to tell us about his concerns over his girlfriend of two years MY SPACE page. He says she is opening herself up to be hit on...she says she is "networking". Although nearly split in their decision, our listeners decided it was ok for her to keep her MY SPACE account.

• Kerri of Seven Hills wrote in:
  Her husband and her are about to have their first child. They are not going to find out the sex of the baby, but have decided to come up with 1 boy name and 1 girl name. For the boy name, Kerri's husband has picked the name John after his father. Kerri doesn't like that name at all because it reminds her of an uncle she has that she thinks is a total creep. He was mean to her Aunt and her Cousin and just can't stand him. She can't image having a son with that name and is afraid that everytime she thinks about it she will feel like crying. Her husband thinks its silly and she should just get over it. She says "Is it wrong to let someone from my past affect my child of my future"? You're the Judge, You're the Jury!!
  Wilde and Fee Listeners voted that they shouldn't name him John and they should compromise on something else.

• Wendy from Chardon sent us a LOVECOURT this morning regarding dating someone who is seperated. In a very tight decision, a majority of WILDE AND FEE listeners concluded it was probably not a good idea....
  
  It is absolutely NOT a good idea to date someone who is just seperated! A friend of mine is doing this right now and he is actually still living at home with his wife! I tell her over and over again that if he loves her that much then he would file for a divorce...his excuse for not filing yet: FOR THE KIDS SAKE!!! If he's worried about his kids so much he would make things work with his wife!
  Why buy the cow when you could get the milk for free???
  Wake up ladies!!!
  
  ~Name Withheld
  North Ridgeville, Ohio

Dear Wilde and Fee 

Kick this around with your listeners to see if what I am doing is out of the norm.   I was divorced within the last six months.  My marriage to "Jim" was rocky but the split was easy.  Two years…no kids.   I have been dating, but none of the guys I have seen really interests me to take it to the physical level.  My ex-husband and I have been with each other about a dozen times since our divorce and the sex has been fantastic.   He's dating someone else and now I'm wondering if I did the wrong thing. I also find it odd that I am now the other woman in my ex-husbands life.  My friends say I need to stop it but I don't want to.  In a weird way, our relationship is more exciting than ever and I deserve to be happy.  What do your listeners think??   

Tami from Bainbridge

Wilde and Fee listeners say Tami should NOT be in any kind of relationship with her EX.